Questions

No seriously, ask me stuff, ask me anything you want. Be it embarrassing, off topic, anatomical, historical, personal, chemically associated, crude, rude, disgusting, or just downright vicious – I don’t care, I’ll respond to everything. In fact, I’ll publish the question and the response (I’ll never use your name, not ever) to every single question I get, not just the ones I want to answer (formspring) but everything, I have no shame, make me sweat.

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8 comments

  1. Anonymous

    I came across your blog and have so far read it from the most recent post through this post. You seem much more enlightened and intelligent than the average American guy your age. My question: In your opinion, what is the biggest flaw a person can have (whether it be physical, mental, or you can even throw in an answer for each)? Meaning, what is the one attribute a person can possess which would make them incapable of your attention, forgiveness, etc.?

  2. devin howard

    Well, first, many thanks for the compliment. I try to avoid self held pretensions or conceits but I must admit that reading things like this do make me smile.

    I think the one attribute or personality trait that completely and irredeemably turns me off from a person, puts them entirely beyond my sympathy or concern, is not really a characteristic per se, but a quality that modifies those things: pettiness.

    Everybody at times is a hypocrite, jealous, angry, bitter, dissatisfied, grumpy, etc. I don’t think I could permanently write somebody off for being a human being. However, some people are constantly engaging in petty expressions of all these things.

    I just can’t deal with petty jealousy, petty disrespect, petty complaints, etc. If this doesn’t make sense just tell me and I’ll try and provide a better explanation, but yes, the short version of all that rambling is: vain, shallow, small-minded pettiness.

  3. Anonymous

    It definitely makes sense. I apologize for asking a seemingly randomly question. You’ve written so much about love of life and people and kindness, I was just curious what kind of person could tempt you to deviate from that point of view. I read lots of blogs and posts belonging to some people I know, some strangers, and a common theme I come across tends to be people who write things that simply sound good with no intention of living that way in their every day life. It’s rare to come across a person who is just genuinely good and unbiased. Your answer was great, not that I’m someone you’d need to answer to or explain yourself to. Best wishes.

  4. ForeverRaucous

    Errm, random, not randomly. Anyway, fabulous blog. It inspired me to finally (after years of avoiding) start one of my own. I even gave you a little shout out (although, not by name, though it won’t really matter since I’m doing it anonymously and may never have any readers). And I have to say, it really won’t compare to yours. You write beautifully. Ok, as you put it, “Keep rockin'”.

  5. devin howard

    haha, no worries about the typo, i do that all the time and I got what you were saying. Thanks for the shout out, it means a lot even if it does remain a private declaration. Thanks also for the compliment. I’m not exactly sure what I want to do with this so-called ‘adult’ life, I don’t know if I possess the skill to be a full time professional writer or if that path is something I even desire, but whatever it is I wind up doing I hope it at least involves writing, can’t say thanks enough for your encouragement.

    The words ‘errm’ and ‘fabulous’, to me, hint that you are British, and I also kind of get the impression that you are female, probably because you used the words ‘forgiveness’ and ‘beautiful.’ Especially beautiful. In my experience its a rare thing to encounter a dude who uses the word ‘beautiful’ to describe writing, but none of that is really important and it may actually be completely wrong. What I’m getting at is this: I totally respect the desire for privacy, but if could offer one piece of advice, don’t write anything you would never share, or, to say it much better,

    Don’t ever be afraid to share things you have written.

    I understand that practical, logical limitations must be applied to that statement, there are some things I and many others probably wouldn’t want to hear about, but my advice is more about an attitude, because the filters we erect for public life are often internalized you’ll find that that tendency will carry over into writing that has been written only for yourself, it is limiting and can hinder self-exploration which for me is the point of writing. Not to be narcissistic of course, self-exploration is, I would argue, a fantastic way to build relationships with other people….but I think you know what I am saying.

    Don’t censor yourself. Three words that could easily replace the above paragraph.

    Thanks again, cheers to you success, and if success has already found you, well then…..hell yeah, and heres to more.

    Best,

    Devin

  6. ForeverRaucous

    Female, yes. British, no. American. Although by using the phrase “American guy”, I probably came across as though I’m not American myself. You’re absolutely right with your attitude about censorship; however, I never actually write as though I’m the only person who will ever read it. Perhaps that stems from a nagging (although logical) realization that any and every thing that is written or typed has the possibility of being read at some point by someone other than myself. Also, seeing as how my blog is online and public, the likelihood it will be read by someone else (even if it’s someone I will never come close to having any real contact with) is undoubtedly high. I’m just not attaching my name (for now). It’s 2011, and I just started my first blog. I’m way behind. Baby steps. (Insert smiley emoticon that I can’t really ever bring myself to type here).

    I’m sure I will put my name on it some day. As for now, the anonymity sort of acts as a veil: I’m partially visible because I’m obviously at least emotionally exposed, but I’m not completely out in the open. I sound very self important right now. Who cares, right? Writing and getting my past and things off my chest is very therapeutic. I feel if a close friend (or even an acquaintance) were to read it and know I wrote it, any compliment, criticism, or feedback they have would be some how less meaningful. That sounds awful since anything a loved one should have to say should be the most meaningful. Compliments can mean more coming from a stranger. Criticism (constructive or otherwise) is usually more honest coming from a stranger.

    I just reread everything I wrote above and realized I’m a little bit ridiculous. This is a blog, not a peace treaty. I should have just written: I’m not as conceited or pompous as I sound. Thanks for the advice, and best wishes.

    Also: You definitely have the talent to excel in pretty much any field that entails writing (see, now doesn’t that feel kind of, maybe just a little tiny bit better coming from someone you don’t necessarily know vs. a relative or close friend).

  7. ForeverRaucous

    Thank you very much. You should turn your letter to ferns into a poem, by the way. Keep writing. Take care.

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